Loving him the wrong way

Yesterday we had a dinner party, One of my close friends asked me "Why do women feel like that need to rule their men"? I think this is goes way back to women independence days.. that was the 60's right? When women get into a relationship with a man, they want to keep the same type of control they had when they were single. But you want to be in a relationship right? That is my question, to those women. Sometimes it has to be a give and take and sometimes women need to know when to play their position. Let a man be a man and you my dear always be a woman. So loving him the wrong way can be a lot of different factors :

1. The woman wants to be the man in the relationship

2. Woman that does not want to compromise.

3. Knowing when to shut up. ( I have this problem myself.)

4. Listening to your mother, your friends and your sisters about your relationship can be really harmful. If the man is not physically abusing/emotionally abusing you, there is no reason to call them every time you have a argument.


At no way do I think a women should be subservient to a man, but I think we all need to know what our roles are in the relationship.

Finding the one to love you

Most women come up to me and ask " How do you find a "Good Man". I think a "Good Man" is all in what you are looking for.When I looked for a man, I looked for someone that was the opposite of what I said I wanted. This proved to be good for me. I would not suggest that for all women. But if you want to find what you are truly looking for make a list. Make a list of all the things you want in man and what traits are a priority.

1. Intelligent
2. Financially- Sound
3. Hard- Working (good work ethic)
4. Treats his mother and sisters well ( that can tell a lot about a man)
5. Children/ or no children


This was my list. If you have a list stick to it. Don't think that there are no men out there that fits your criteria. There are some. You have to be willing to go where you haven't been to find him

Once you find him... you have to keep him !

Keep him lovin' u

I had an older woman ask me in the beauty shop, " How did you get him to commit" ? To me the answer was simple. But I have to realize it might not be so simple for other women so here is my thoughts...
1. I never gave him a "cheap" feeling. I wanted him to know from the beginning I am a quality woman and while I had a good time with him I was not "easy" to win over.

2. I can take care of myself. I can pay my own bills and keep myself in the matter I would expect you to if I give you the chance.

3. I want you, I don't need you. This is a very important. Don't be needy.

4. Set your priorities and stick to them. But do not let your man know what you are after. If you are looking for a ring, don't ever bring it up in conversation.

5. Keep your figure up, rather we like it or not men want a woman who looks good.

6. Cook and clean. Keep your house clean and cook the man a meal. Also, make sure you have good hygiene.

7. Pay attention to you. Make sure your hair and clothing are neat and well fitted.

8. Make him your center when you are with him. Pay attention to the conversation. Don't have your head up in the clouds, have something to say.